As I ran my six miles this morning, through the fog, I tried to pay extra attention to the world around me. It was a hilly run, so it was easy to notice the landscape under my feet, and the fog made the woods and the front yards and the occasional farm especially picturesque. In the final mile is when I hit the steepest, longest hill, and my thoughts turned to the issue of discomfort.
As I stated in my blog entry from a few days ago, about traumatic grieving, as humans we naturally do our utmost to avoid discomfort. We are on the lookout for pleasurable endeavors, so we can run toward them, and for unpleasant situations, so we can run away from them. There’s a biological reason we humans are programmed for this, as a matter of survival. Avoid danger.
Today, December 14th, is really awful, at least here in CT, for obvious reasons. It’s, as one of my Facebook friends, whose daughter died in the Aurora CO shooting, called it - the tragiversary of the Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting. Many of us are well aware of the pain and suffering and horror and anger and all sorts of unpleasant emotions that were unleashed three years ago today, and show up in full force for some, at times, but for most usually simmer somewhere under the surface.
It is uncomfortable, to say the least, to anticipate and then experience a tragiversary. Most of us have probably experienced loss in some way, and may have strong feelings toward an upcoming milestone – it would have been my dad’s 67th birthday; my mom is missing her only granddaughter’s wedding; and so on.
Today is the third tragiversary of an extremely traumatic event that, if you are a parent, most likely devastated you, caused you to draw your children in closer and question whether or not you could go on living if this had happened to your family.
“It feels like I am intruding on the grieving families when I say that this is a difficult day for me. I mean, it was their child who was killed. And yet – I put myself in their position and I can’t stop crying.”
What do we do?
“I feel like, going to work on such a heavy day is such a trivial thing.”
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